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Move on from dating dread and relationship anxiety
to calm, clarity, and secure love
If dating leaves you overthinking, anxious, or quietly bracing for disappointment…
If early relationships trigger self-doubt, people-pleasing, or emotional shutdown…
If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, or losing yourself trying not to be “too much”…
There is nothing wrong with you.
What you’re experiencing isn’t about a lack of worth, effort, or readiness.
It’s a set of relationship patterns - the beliefs, fears, and protective behaviours you learned to stay
safe in love.
And patterns can be understood and changed.
Who this group is for
This group is for women who have already done a lot of inner work. You may have:
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read the books
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listened to the podcasts
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been to therapy or coaching
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learned about attachment and red flags
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become highly self-aware
And yet, when it comes to dating or relationships, something still feels stuck.
You might understand why you feel anxious or guarded, but still struggle to change the pattern when it matters most.
This group is for women who are ready to:
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stop doing this work alone
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move beyond insight into embodied change
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practise new ways of relating in a safe, supported space
If you’re looking for quick tips or surface-level advice, this won’t be the right fit.
If you’re ready to slow things down, be seen, and do deeper relational work, you’ll feel at home here.
What begins to shift
In this group, you’ll begin to move away from patterns that keep you stuck, and towards calmer, more secure ways of relating.
You’ll stop:
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overriding your gut
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shaming yourself for having needs
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confusing chemistry with emotional safety
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over-analysing to avoid rejection
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shrinking, performing, or being “easygoing” to keep connection
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repeating the same pattern with a different person
And instead, you’ll begin to:
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feel calmer in dating and early relationships
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recognise emotionally available partners, and choose them
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notice red flags early without spiralling
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communicate your needs with clarity and self-respect
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build a steady, compassionate relationship with yourself
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let love in without abandoning yourself
Inside this group, you'll learn how to:
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Soothe your anxiety in dating and early relationships
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Stop repeating unhealthy patterns and choose an emotionally available partner
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Recognise red flags early without over-analysing
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Communicate vulnerably without fear of being “too much”
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Build self-trust and self-worth, so love feels safer to receive
These are skills you’ll use for life- whether you’re single, dating, or partnered.
What’s included
This is not a mass program. You are known here.
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Personal Intake & Relationship Mapping Session (30 mins) with Phoebe
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6-week live, therapist-led women’s group (2 hours weekly)
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Attachment style & core relationship pattern assessment
(often called “schemas”- the beliefs, emotional triggers, and protective behaviours you learned early on about love) -
Guided healing and reflection journal
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Group recordings (30-day access)
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Supportive, shame-free community of women
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Practical tools you can return to again and again
Before the group begins:
your individual intake session
Before entering the group, you’ll meet with Phoebe for a 30-minute Personal Intake & Relationship
Mapping Session
This session allows Phoebe to understand your relationship history, attachment patterns, and current challenges, so the group content supports you rather than overwhelms you.
It also helps you feel grounded, prepared, and connected before the group begins.
This session is a core part of the group, not an add-on.
How each session runs
Each weekly session includes:
60 minutes of
guided learning
covering the psychology of love, dating, and secure connection
(attachment styles, emotional maturity, self-worth, shame, healthy partner choice, and relationship patterns)
60 minutes of
guided learning
This is therapy-level depth, held in a warm, accessible group format.
(self-soothing, inner-child work, shifting self-talk, building self-trust, and vulnerable communication)
The 6-week journey
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Week 1: Values, Needs & Relationship Patterns
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Week 2: Attachment Styles & Emotional Maturity
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Week 3: Core Wounds, Anxiety & Vulnerability
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Week 4: Shifting Patterns, Self-Talk & Chemistry
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Week 5: Inner Child Healing & Secure Self-Leadership*
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Week 6: Shame, Worthiness & Letting Love In
*Secure self-leadership refers to strengthening the part of you that can self-soothe, set boundaries, and lead with self-trust, called the “Healthy Adult” in Schema Therapy.
Register your interest for the next group
If you’re tired of doing this alone - and you can feel that something needs to shift
this is your invitation.
Register your interest below to receive details for the next women's group (late 2026)
or work individually with Phoebe